"Enjoying this cup of coffee while writing my thoughts this morning" :-)
I've had a short conversation with a friend who works far away from her family. We talked about her present life.. we talked about a lot of things,. we talked about her pain caused by lost love....failed marriage.. sad story!.. Even if I tried my best to comfort her, I know nothing in this world could ease that pain.. there is no easy way to mend it or stop the heart from hurting ... It hit us like a bullet and no one is spared from it.
Our life is not perfect, and sometimes perfect love (does it really exists?) is not for everyone! Either one of us could get hurt or we could hurt others in pursuit of our own happiness. Nothing stays forever and tomorrow is not a promise for every relationship.
When we get hurt, no matter how we try to move on, we just keep running in circles.. replaying all the beautiful moments in our heads and asking so many questions of WHYs .. what went wrong.. we demand for an explanation but ends up, nothing get solved! Everybody hurts!
Do we really deserve forgiveness when we hurt people? do we really need to give kindness when people hurt us? I've seen a lot of happy faces while others are suffering because their relationship is falling apart. They shed a river of tears.. I've felt broken hearts. Why do we have to go through a series of pain before we could learn to accept that maybe.. yes maybe .. the love is not really meant for us.. ? Why do we need to argue a lot before we could understand each other (or never) and if we don't.. separate ways! sigh!! So injustice :-)
Moving on is a long long process as well as forgiveness.... I guess, relationship survive not by the amount of perfect moments and sweet memories but by the amount of solved discussions and arguments and always remember .. we give ourselves, our love with every coffee shared and no matter how much love we gave and offered, we cannot take it back anymore..and no matter how much love.. when one of you is not willing to listen or not willing to understand and forgive (even if your heart bleeds) .. that kind of love you gave.. will be gone and insignificant and will not be remembered by the power of DELETE button.. phew!
back to my reading and signing off ;-).. enjoying this music that fits me well :-)
Beautiful post, we (men) can understand better what's inside the heart of a wounded woman.
ReplyDeleteYes Jean, most men can understand but most of them will just ignore. lol
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